Thinking Partner to Extraordinary Leaders

You are in one of two places

You have achieved the success that you have worked so hard to create.

You now have the external status, influence and financial abundance you coveted, and many people would admire.

But you are not experiencing the freedom of life after success.

You are a founder or business owner carrying a mission that has grown bigger than your current leadership identity.

You strive to leave the world a better place than you found it, and you deeply care about the impact you are making through your work.

But you can feel it now, a greater leadership identity is needed.

Two different thresholds but the same underlying issue.

Your outer life has outgrown the inner identity that created it.

The problem isn't what you have built or building

You are deeply committed to the impact you are creating.

Your mission, responsibilities and successes are all real and important.

The problem is not your ambition.

The problem is the greater ambition is being sought after by the same high achieving identity.

Your relentless internal drive always has you stretched.

Your high sense of responsibility puts you into over-commitment because you know you can help.

Your internal operating system is still governed by high performance and perfectionism.

Your high paced productivity and optimization never stops looking for more, better and faster.

Your high standards has you constantly facing self-judgment.

This internal operating system does not automatically go away after success or achievement.

You have to intentionally re-create it.

I know what the outer game could not give me

I have lived the external achievement game; I spent more than two decades inside high-performance corporate leadership. I know fast moving complex environments, pressure, responsibility, high performance, and strategic execution in a results-oriented world. I know the high achiever identity that forms around being capable, trusted and needed by those around me.

I also know what achievement can not do.

I have viscerally experienced the death of someone I loved, and through it faced my own mortality. I gained wisdom through my heartache, grief, loneliness, and questions around the meaning of my life. I was living into a hero version of myself and I was not ready for the grounding. I experienced with deep pain that no amount of achievement or high performance will protect me from grief, guarantee my inner peace, create intimacy in my relationships, tell me who I truly am, or what I have been brought into life to do.

I am not here to help successful people become more impressive or admired. I am here to help extraordinary leaders become more whole and complete. When they do, the positive effects will ripple out to their teams, organizations, families, and communities.

The 3 Traps of Extraordinary Leaders

1. The same identity that built your success can not build your freedom.

An identity of achievement, responsibility, and high performance needs to be turned down, not be the foundation.

2. You can not solve your inner freedom with increased productivity and optimization.

If your achievement identity tries to create your inner freedom, you create freedom as an outcome.
You will drive hard, optimize, analyze gaps and self-assess your way to freedom; creating the complete opposite effect.

3. The higher you rise, the fewer people are available to tell you the truth.

You are surrounded by people who depend on you, not grow you. This is the paradox of being a hero in your environment; everyone looks to you for guidance, and no one is available to guide you. Even if they wanted to help, deep down they may see your problems as nice-to-have quality problems. We all need a trusted truth telling partner to help explore our depth, we can not see blind spots for ourselves.

Integrated Leadership is leading from the inside out

You have been trained, conditioned, and successful leading from the outside in. You excel at creating a vision, setting goals, picking strategies, building plans, then executing by empowering people, and managing timelines to results. But eventually, the outer game exposes the inner one.

Integrated leadership begins when you stop separating you as a leader from you as a human being.

Your business, leadership, relationships and well-being are not separate compartments of life.

Your mind, body, heart, soul do not operate separately.

They are interconnected, interdependent, and complementary.

They require integration.

When the human being behind the leadership evolves, you create yourself as a leader in who you are being.

You are no longer a leader because of what you do, but you are a leader because of who you are.

It might be a fit for us to work together if,

You are already extraordinary successful, but no longer willing to let that be your only measure

You are a founder or business owner whose mission now requires a deeper version of you.

You are carrying meaningful responsibility and want to lead without losing yourself to it.

You have a high level of self-awareness, and you value truth over comfort.

You are willing to question the identity that helped you get here.

You want your leadership, business, relationships and life to be an integrated expression of you.

You are not looking for someone to admire your capacity, but rather speak truths to the human being behind the capacity.

You shouldn't consider working with me if,

You are generally satisfied with the success you have had and the life you lead.

You want to scale your business without changing you, the person leading it.

You want growth at any cost.

You want to keep calling overwork, commitment.

You want to keep calling control, getting results.

You want to keep calling avoidance, patience.

You want to keep calling self-sacrifice, service.

You don't believe in investing in yourself.

You want leadership tactics without self-inquiry.

You are not able to laugh at yourself from time to time.

Integrated Leadership